Then We Choose Again
When I was preparing to officiate my first wedding, I was stumped on what to talk about. I wanted to share an experience rather than preach or lecture. The idea came to me in the middle of a hot yoga...
View ArticleBeyond Limits: Legacy of Resilience & Gratitude for MS
For Pete’s fortieth birthday, I made a movie about his life. I interviewed a plethora of people. Family, friends from every era, people who had known him far longer than I had. Near the end of every...
View ArticleHundreds of Memories Shared: A Journey of Trust
We recently passed a number I did not let myself imagine when I started. People have now shared hundreds of memories through OurMemoryBook.com. I want to sit with that for a second before I do...
View ArticleBuildings Last. Stories Live.
There are many ways to leave something behind. A name on a building is one of them, and it is a generous one. It funds the place where someone will be healed, or taught, or given a start. That kind of...
View ArticleThe CIO Role Is Broken. AI Is Why.
For decades, the Chief Information Officer has been the person who keeps the lights on. Infrastructure, security, vendor management, and the annual budget cycle for laptops and licenses. It is a...
View ArticleWhat Culture Taught Us About AI Governance
For decades, culture did not matter. Or rather, we behaved as if it did not matter. I stupidly did, especially in the early days of Contegix. Culture was the invisible hand shaping organizations while...
View ArticleWhy New Year’s Resolutions Fail: The Priority Dilemma
It is January 13th. Four days ago was Quitter’s Day. You may not have heard of it by name, but you have felt it. Strava, the fitness tracking company, coined the term in 2019 after analyzing millions...
View ArticleLiving Longer, Living Uncertain: The Mental Health Paradox of Modern Multiple...
This blog post has probably been the most difficult to draft. It runs the risk of being misinterpreted as a personal cry for help. (It is not, and I love you for caring.) It risks sounding judgmental....
View ArticleEleven Years: What MS Has Taught Me About Time, Probability, and Purpose
Today marks eleven years since my diagnosis with multiple sclerosis. That number carries weight in the MS community. More than a decade of lessons, struggles, and unexpected blessings. The diagnosis...
View ArticleMeasuring Relationships: Walk, Bike, Car, or Plane?
As family, friends, and readers know, I have learned so much from mentors. This stems from the way I was raised. My dad believed that there were two ways to learn: figure it out on your own or learn...
View ArticleThe Real Source of Confidence: Why Power Over Yourself Comes First
Confidence is a topic I never envisioned writing about, considering my previous struggle with it. My insights are personal reflections rather than expert advice, emerging from my journey. For years, I...
View ArticleUncertainty Is Not the Enemy
Here is a statistic that might surprise you: When researchers ask people to rate their overall life satisfaction, they consistently report lower scores than when those same people are asked to rate...
View ArticleThe Silent Resignation of A-Players
There is something inherently compelling about an A-Player. This individual consistently delivers results – not only when conditions are favorable, but with a relentless, dependable rhythm. They are...
View ArticleConflict Avoidance? Nope, It Is Actually Ignorance & It Damages Relationships
In the past few weeks, the topic of avoiding conflict has come up more than once with people I coach or advise. Different people. Different contexts. Same theme. I am taking this as a sign to write...
View ArticleHow A Lawsuit Forced Me To Be A Better Leader (and Less of a Dick-tator)
One of the most significant benefits of completing the Contegix transaction is the newfound freedom and space to reflect on our early days openly. Revisiting some memories can be uncomfortable and...
View ArticleThe Gift of Imperfection: Parenting Beyond the Myth of Infallibility – Hero...
I was raised in an era where parents were revered as paragons of perfection. I distinctly recall asking my mother if she, like the Pope, possessed a ceremonial hat signifying her infallibility....
View ArticleWhy Productive Friction Is Essential for Stronger Teams, Marriages, and Families
I am a firm believer in the power of productive friction and frequently discuss its importance with my teams. At its core, productive friction represents collaborative engagements that empower...
View ArticleMoving Beyond Cynicism: Harvesting a Non-Net Sum Zero Life
This blog post stems from a speech I delivered after someone read my blog post, “Net Sum Zero vs. Non-Net Sum Zero: Two Fundamental Belief Systems”. He reached out asking me to speak at his company’s...
View ArticleWhy Great Leaders (Are Like Coders and) Fall in Love with Problems
I have always had a fondness for problems. Scratch that. I love problems. I have always loved problems. It is a passion that has always been with me. It is probably why I fell in love with coding...
View ArticleWork-Life Balance Is Bullshit or A Lie
For the 2019-2020 fiscal year, I had the honor of serving as Learning Officer for my local YPO chapter. The Learning Officer is responsible for creating the theme for the year and creating a calendar...
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